WHY WE WORK:

I am a recovering neurotic. I know this machinery from the inside because I have lived it, studied it, recorded it, analyzed it, and spent years learning how to recognize the unconscious patterns that once ran my life.

My work comes from nearly twenty years of studying and preserving a forgotten psychoanalytic method that was passed down to me by Edmund Bergler and Dr. Bernard Glazman. It is rooted in neurosis, psychic masochism, self-sabotage, projection, avoidance, and the unconscious need to suffer.

I am also an investigative documentary filmmaker, which means I have spent my career questioning the official story, finding what was left out, and exposing the hidden mechanics behind conflict, deception, and human behavior. I bring that same instinct into my work with clients. I listen for the clues, the contradictions, the missing beats, and the parts of the story that do not quite hold up.

You are most probably a neurotic as well. Most people are. Because you keep getting into conflicts, it is necessary to understand why. The people and scenarios may change, but the same thing keeps happening.

What is a neurotic, you ask? "The things I say, think, and do create suffering in my life and other people’s lives." The choices you make lead to suffering in your life and in other people's lives. 

They are instantaneous reactions that happen in your mind that cause you to react in the same negative way you have always been reacting. You continue to act this way because these things that happen in your mind run the exact same playbook script that guarantees you will continue to fall for it. 

You misuse external circumstances beyond your control as fuel for this internal mechanism that operates before, during, and after a conflict, whether the conflict is explosive or subtle. They are mental reactions that your mind runs through in an instant as the synapses fire. 

They happen so quickly that they are almost undetectable unless you know what to look for. And even when you do know, they still fire off. 

In the beginning, the only thing a neurotic can do when first learning about the unconscious and the control it has of you, your reaction, and the predictable outcome, is to get to a place where you can recognize that this sequence of reactions is happening—or just happened—in your head. 

That’s when we use interpretations: to replay the situation, identify what you did and why you reacted the way you did, and see how your own mind was the real impetus for how you are feeling—not the outside situation you believed you were reacting to.

When we work together, I am not just helping you get through your latest conflict. I am teaching you how to recognize the playbook behind it. 

Most people come in focused on the outside problem: the argument, the anxiety, the betrayal, the resentment, the person they cannot let go of, or the thing that keeps them up at night. I help them see how their unconscious may be using that problem as an alibi for suffering.

We investigate the story you tell yourself, the role you may be leaving out, the reactions you keep repeating, and what was happening inside your mind right before everything went sideways. 

The goal is not to cure you. The goal is to help you recognize the mechanism, pause before it takes over completely, and navigate your life with more responsibility, restraint, and clarity.